Get creative about continuing to meet new people!
In the spirit of helping to get people together and alleviate that feeling of isolation I did something crazy. I decided I would facilitate group online meet n greets for singles. I will do this on Zoom and create a video meeting so that people can physically see each other and learn a little more about each other.
Video dating online is something I’m sure a lot of people have never thought about. Throughout my single hood though I’ve made it a practice most times that before meeting me in person we have to do at least one Video chat. This is because I find people often aren’t authentic in their pictures and also this gives a better idea of whether or not there will actually be attraction.
I have a plan but I’m a little nervous
Tonight when I do this call I’m going to lead by opening with some comments regarding conduct – I want people to be positive, make it a safe space for all, save additional commentary for later and remember to not over share. Hopefully people will follow along and we won’t get the heavy talkers that only like to hear themselves speak.
I will then give the floor to the group asking everyone to start by asking a question similar to one you would ask on a speed date, and then everyone in the room has to answer it. My hope is people will interact in a positive way and that maybe after they can make some connections that will lead to relationships when lock down ends.
People will always be naysayers
I’ve gotten some really positive feedback from people about doing video dating online, and some really negative. I think people are in a bit more of a negative mind set right now because of what is happening in our world. One friend immediately told me it sounded terrible and that “I do many zoom meetings for work and they are hard to moderate.” I rolled my eyes at this one. I do tons of them too and since I’ve limited the number of people who can join I know that I will be able to do it. It hasn’t been hard for me. I choose to try.
The other comment was “that’s going to be scary since everyone can’t get haircuts and people are running out of make up.” Oh brother, No wonder buddy is still single. Look on the upside, doing video dating online instead of the traditional stuff gives you and opportunity to actually see the person in action a bit. It also costs you nothing. How many dates have you been on that lead to nothing. Plus – with physical distancing what else are you going to do? I choose to fill my time with something that challenges me and hopefully will at least make me smile.
Mindset is everything
I’m bored too. I don’t love this new norm and it’s uncomfortable for me. I especially have struggled with loneliness during this time. Instead of wallowing I decided to DO something. I’m re framing my thoughts and thinking more about what I CAN do rather than what I CAN’T. Ever since I started the idea of doing a video meet n greet online for singles who are stuck at home I have felt a lot more positive. I feel like I’m helping and it’s fun to bring people together. I hope it works out well and if it does I’m going to continue to plan them. It’s pretty much just an online meetup.
Who knows what this could evolve into but I’m going to find fun in whatever ways I can right now.
What are you doing to keep yourself thinking positive right now? Would you be interested in an online meet n greet? Leave comments below and let me know!!!